Wellness notes from Firefly 

You deserve so much more ... It seems strange for me to say but I didn't know I was being emotionally abused until it had been happening for years. I remember being in Borders on Michigan Avenue - it felt like such a safe space because I could browse books and my husband would never know what I was looking at. I found a book - I don't remember the title - that described emotional abuse and I was shocked. It described exactly what was happening to me. Another thing that might

I'm not the expert on you - you are! I don't have all the answers. Have you ever heard a coach say that? I haven't. Most coaches who are marketing themselves online will try to sell you on the idea that they know what's best for you. If you follow their program, you will be thin, healthy and joyous. You will change your mindset, be more productive than ever before and it will be sunshine and roses forever after. All for the low price of $10,000 and three months of your time.

My upcoming workshop focuses on protecting your peace during the holidays after abuse. I've been thinking about what that means and wanted to explain why I came up with this idea in the first place and how it can help other women getting out of abusive situations. When I got divorced, we decided to split custody 50/50 - each of us would have the kids every other week and we figured out how to share holidays. For reasons that maybe I'll explain at some point, I wasn't able to

TRIGGER WARNING: This essay contains examples of domestic abuse. Please take care of yourself if this might cause you distress. If you want to talk about how I can help you recover from an abusive relationship, I offer free 30 minute sessions. You can make an appointment here . I've been struggling to write this because my first attempts were to write a kind of educational blog with statistics and lists and all that high level stuff. But it just wasn't coming together like I

Gaslighting: psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the...

Women who are victims of abuse are often silenced by the fear of not being believed. Trigger warning - this post contains discussion of...