Why ‘Balance’ Might Be a Myth—And What to Aim for Instead

For many women, "work" doesn't end at the end of the workday.

For decades, women have been sold a very specific dream: that with the right attitude, a little time management, and maybe the perfect perfume, we could “have it all.” Be the devoted mother, the successful professional, the attentive partner—and somehow stay calm, energized, and polished through it all.

If you grew up in the 80s or 90s, you might remember those commercials: a woman in heels confidently balancing a briefcase and a diaper bag, promising to “bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan.” The implication was clear—you can do it all at the same time, and look good doing it.

But here's the truth: trying to live up to that image is exhausting. And worse—it’s damaging to our health.

The Problem with “Balance”

The word balance suggests that everything should be held in perfect harmony at all times—work, family, home, wellness, relationships, rest. But life doesn’t work like that. Some weeks your kids need more from you. Some days work takes over. Sometimes your body says, “Hey, I need you to slow down and pay attention to me for once.”

Trying to maintain balance often leads to guilt, burnout, and unrealistic expectations—because when everything feels important, how do you know where to start?

A Better Alternative: Living in Rhythm

Instead of chasing balance, what if we started thinking about rhythm?

Rhythm allows for ebb and flow. It recognizes that some seasons are more demanding than others, and that’s okay. It gives you permission to shift your energy, your focus, and your time without feeling like you're dropping the ball. Rhythm is responsive, human, and kind.

It also makes space for you—your energy, your needs, your capacity. Which, let’s be honest, have likely been pushed aside for far too long.

How to Start Living in Rhythm

• Check in with yourself regularly. Ask: What do I need today? What’s feeling off? What’s working?

• Let go of all-or-nothing thinking. You don’t have to do it all to be doing enough.

• Start small. A 5-minute walk or a quiet moment with your coffee can be just as meaningful as a big “self-care” gesture.

• Say no more often. Boundaries are a form of self-respect—and a rhythm keeper.

  
  

You’re Allowed to Do Things Differently

If the old “balance” model never really worked for you, you’re not alone—and you’re not doing anything wrong. You’re just human.

That’s why I created The Busy Mom Reset—a program designed not to pile on more pressure, but to help you reconnect with what you need. It’s about creating simple, sustainable rhythms that support your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing without guilt or overwhelm.

Because being a good mom, a strong woman, and a whole person shouldn’t require perfection. It just takes a willingness to start. Ready to stop chasing balance and start feeling like yourself again? Let’s talk. Set up a free Wellness Chat with me to explore what you need most right now—no pressure, just support. 💛