Letting go of perfection and the desire to make everyone happy (and what that means in real life)

It's me! Enjoying a sunny day on my front porch

I’m going to be honest—I struggle with letting go of perfection.

I struggle when things don’t go to plan. When someone else’s crisis throws off my day. When I feel like I have to be everything to everyone all the time. It’s hard to be flexible when it feels like so much is always on the line.

I want the people around me to be happy. I want to help with their struggles. I want to do meaningful

Me at a rally standing up for civil rights

mutual aid and the kind of activism that makes a difference in my community. I want to help my clients improve their health in sustainable ways—without extreme diets or wellness trends that don’t fit their real lives.

And of course, I want to build a successful, fulfilling business.

Running a business wasn’t something I ever thought I’d do.

But I love being a health coach. And in order to be the coach I want to be, I have to do it on my terms.

I want to help working moms take care of themselves, because I’ve been there. I’ve done the juggling act. I’ve cried from sheer overwhelm. I’ve tried to be the perfect lawyer, the perfect wife, the perfect mother. I’ve survived domestic violence and come out stronger.

But the things I haven’t fully conquered?

👉 Trying to do everything perfectly.

👉 Trying to be everything to everyone I care about.

Here’s the kicker: I know what to do. I’ve done the trainings. I’ve read the books. I help other people let go of perfectionism, set boundaries, and reclaim time for themselves.

And a lot of the time, I’m successful at doing those things for myself too. But not always.

Today is one of those not-always days.

My father is in a nursing home, and I’m navigating a mountain of Medicaid paperwork because he didn’t have his finances in order before needing full-time care. It’s exhausting and emotionally loaded—especially when I find myself having to coax him to drink his Ensure (he hates vanilla, but that’s what they offer).

Everything will be ok ....

It’s heartbreaking to feel like I’m parenting my parent. And I know I’m not alone in that.

I’m grateful that my kids are now in their 20s and I’m no longer doing the school runs, conferences, and late-night homework crises. But some of the same struggles I had back then? They’re still here. And that makes me even more passionate about supporting you—especially if you're in the thick of that season right now.

I’m sharing all of this because I want to be transparent. I don’t have it all figured out. I still struggle with the same things I help other women navigate.

But that doesn’t make me a fraud—it makes me human.

You are the expert on you. No one knows your life, your needs, or your capacity better than you do. But I can be a guide, a sounding board, and a source of ideas when you’re ready to try something new.

That’s what coaching is about. It’s not me handing you a perfect plan. It’s us figuring out what works for you—together.

This is why I’m building the Firefly Coaching Hub, a community for moms who are ready to reconnect with themselves. It’s a space to learn who you are outside of being a mom, a partner, a professional, or a caregiver.

It’s a place for support, education, shared stories, and real conversations.

You don’t have to have it all together. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to show up as yourself.

💛 Click here to join the Firefly Coaching Hub. Let’s build this together.